A Lesson on Kindness

Train Up The Child is dedicated to helping you fulfill God’s commands to parents. Deuteronomy 6:7 instructs us to teach our children as we go; Isaiah 28:10 instructs to teach ‘here a little, there a little’.

Begin this lesson by creatively making a poster of Ephesians 4:32 and place it on the fridge all week.  Read the suggested passages for Bible stories and tell them in your own words.  I have given you suggested things to share about each.  Do at least one of the suggested activities each day.  I am sure you can come up with better ideas on your own – this is just to get you started.

You can find more helpful information and songs related to kindness in a previous blog http://www.trainupthechild.org/?s=my+preschooler+hit+me.


Bible Verse: Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another

Bible Stories:

Luke 10:30-35 A man was walking down a road and some bad men jumped on him and beat him up and hurt him so badly he couldn’t move.  Then they left him all alone.  A man came by later but he would not help the hurt man.  Another man came by, but he wouldn’t help either.  Finally a man came by and felt sorry for the hurt man so he stopped and helped him.  He bandaged his hurt places and took him to a nice, warm place to stay.  Which man was being kind?

 Ruth 2 Ruth and her mother-in-law had just moved from another country to Bethlehem.  They didn’t have a garden to raise any food, so they were hungry.  Ruth went to a man’s field of wheat and asked if she could have the left-overs from his field. The man’s name was Boaz. Boaz told her she didn’t have to get the left-overs, but she could have whatever she needed.  Was Boaz kind?

 Daniel 1 The bad King Nebuchadnezzar had put Daniel in prison.  He was being mean to Daniel and his friends.  But one of the king’s men felt sorry for Daniel.  Instead of being mean to Daniel like the king wanted him to, he was kind to Daniel and helped him to show the king that God is good.

1 Samuel 18 through 2 Samuel 5 King Saul had been chasing David everywhere.  He wanted to kill David because David was so good.  David hid in a cave.  King Saul came into the cave and didn’t see David.  This was David’s chance to get Saul back for being so mean to him.  He could have hurt him but would that have been kind?  No, David let Saul go unharmed.  When Saul found out, he told David, “You have been kind, but I have been evil.”

John 4:6-29 Jesus was sitting at a well where people came to get their water.  A lady came to get water while he sat there.  She was a Samaritan lady and Jesus was a Jewish man.  The Jews did not like the Samaritans and would not talk to them or have anything to do with them at all.  In fact they were sometimes very mean to them.  But Jesus wasn’t mean to the lady.  He began to talk to her and tell her about God and how she could be saved.  Jesus was kind to the lady.

Prayer: Help us to show kindness by hugging, helping, sharing, and saying kind words to one another

Activities for younger preschoolers:

Act out the story of the Good Samaritan with bandages and bandaides

Feed birds or ducks or pet animals and share the verse

Share the verse while changing diaper and point out the kindness you are showing by
caring for him.

Teach him to hug and kiss – share the verse.

Play with ball and talk about playing kindly and sharing

Activities for older preschoolers:

Act out the story of the Good Samaritan with bandages and bandaides

Make a bird feeder out of a pine cone covered in peanut butter and rolled in bird seed.
hang outside in a tree.  Watch for birds and share the verse.

Have him draw a picture and send it to someone just to show kindness.

Bake cookies and take to someone – share the verse as you work

Make or buy playdough and tell them you did it just to show kindness to him.

Describe situations or show pictures of different situations and ask if it is showing
kindness or unkindness –ex. Pushing, sharing, listening to parents, helping someone who falls down, telling someone, ‘I love you’, kicking someone


Be Kind to One Another


Kindness, Kindness is God’s Idea you see (tune of Goodness on Music Machine: The Fruit of the Spirit)



The New Bible in Pictures for Little Eyes Gift Edition

The Story of the Good Samaritan – Arch Books

The Angry King: 1 Samuel 18-2 Samuel 5 for Children

Jesus and the Woman at the Well – Arch Books

Jesus Teaches Me Kindness (An Arch Books Series)


Job believed God is bigger than the bad things that happened to him.

Telling the Story:

Read the book of Job and tell it dramatically in your own words or read it to your children from a Children’s Bible.  My First Study Bible tells and illustrates the story excellently.

Here’s a suggested telling of the story.  “Job loved God and had been very blessed by Him with many animals, nice houses, 7 sons, and 3 daughters. He was very happy.  But one day thieves stole all of his animals.  Then a great wind destroyed the house that all of his children were dining in and they were all killed.  Then Job became sick with sores all over his body.  He was sad that God had allowed all these bad things to happen to him but he never stopped trusting God!!

His friends came to sit with him and told him that all these things had happened because he was a bad person.  Job knew that wasn’t the truth.  He cried out to God for answers.  God came to Job in a whirlwind and reminded Job how big He is and all the things He can do.  Job believed that God is greater than man (Job 33:12)  God told him his friends were wrong and then God told Job to pray for his friends.

The Bible says that after Job prayed for his friends God began to restore all that had been taken away. He gave Job TWICE as much as he had before – (Job 42:10 When Job prayed for his friends, the Lord restored his fortunes.) Job was happy again.  Job knew and loved God even more now.


Use a circle cut from cardstock and covered in clear contact paper as Job’s face.  Glue on wiggly eyes. Use play dough to show the different feelings Job had (glad, sad, and glad again) Show the sores on his face and then show his face after God healed him.


Lunch can be a sandwich made to look like sad Job.


Mark two jars, one with ‘God Can’ and the other marked ‘I Can’.  Write on legos somethings that only God can do (ex. – make a fish, cause the sun to shine), and somethings that we can do (ex. – catch a fish, turn on a flashlight).  Drop the legos in the appropriate jars.

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Sing “My God is So Big”


Lead children to pray for their friends like Job did.  Especially tell them about and pray for a friend your family might know who quit trusting God when something bad happened.

(Click here for another lesson on How Big God is.)



Consider the Birds with Your Children (A Lesson on Trusting God)

Deep Inner Peace

Even the sparrow has found a home, and the swallow a nest for herself,
where she may have her young–
a place near your altar, O Lord Almighty, my King and my God,
Psalm 84:3

He will keep in perfect peace all those who trust in him,
whose thoughts turn often to the Lord!
Isaiah 26:3

In the last post we talked about how God values birds and used them as teaching aides and object lessons, so let’s do the same.  Let’s use birds to teach our children about trusting God. Tell a different Bible Story each day and do the corresponding Activity. Put one of the above verses on the fridge and spend the week memorizing it.

Bible Stories:

1.  Matthew 6:26Job 12:7 God wants us to look at the birds and learn from them. There are many Bible verses that talk about birds which shows how much God values even the little birds.  We can value the birds too by giving them food in the winter when it is hard for them to find food and leaving fresh water for them if there hasn’t been rain in a while.  We can also value the birds by hearing what God says about them in the Bible.

 2.  Psalm 84 David was sitting in the Tabernacle of God (church) and singing to God about how much he loved to be near Him.  He must have been watching the birds there and it caused him to think about how even the birds felt safe to build their nests there in the church.  They knew the best place to live is near to God.  The sparrows and swallows are known for being restless birds who loved to freely flutter and dart about, but they felt it was safe to rest near to God. God will keep us safe too when we stay near to Him.

3.  Matthew 6:25-33 Jesus was teaching His friends about how much God loves them when He noticed the birds flying around.  He said,  “Look at the birds! They aren’t worried about having enough to eat because God feeds them.  In the same way, you shouldn’t worry about what you will eat.  God will feed you too!”  Just stay close to God and He will make sure you have all you need.

4.  Job 28:21Proverbs 1:17Job 35:11, Psalm 145:10  God liked to use the birds as an example.  The birds have the ability to see more than we can because they can fly high above and see a lot of things at one time.  The birds are very watchful and not easily trapped.  God said it is foolish to lay a net in front of the bird; he won’t go into it.  God made birds wise, but He made man even wiser.  God made birds to sing His praises and He made us to do so too!

5.  Matthew 23:37  One day Jesus was feeling sad about all the evil in the world.  People had turned away from God and were doing the opposite of what He wanted them to do.  He loved them and wanted to protect them but they refused. He compared his love for them to that of a bird.  He said, “Oh how I wish I could gather you like a hen gathers her chicks under her wings so I could love and protect you but you wouldn’t let me.”  Let’s stay near Jesus and let Him love and protect us.


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1. Make a bird feeder out of a pinecone: Spread it with peanut butter and cover it in birdseed.  Hang it in a place outside that you can see from a window. Then sit down and watch the birds with your children. While watching, point out that the birds mentioned in Ps 84:3 made their homes near God and that is what we should do.  The birds knew that near God is where they would be the safest.   The same is true for us.


2. Color  – Look at the picture at the top – how peaceful the little bird is even though there is a thunderstorm going on around it.  Click here to download the above picture to color.  Talk about the fact that the bird trusts God to keep him peaceful in the midst of the storm.  We can trust God when things go wrong in our lives.

3. Eat like a bird:  When people say, ‘You eat like a bird,’ they often mean you hardly eat anything at all. But although birds do eat tiny mouthfuls of food, they do so hundreds of times each day. So try a bird’s eating habits. Take a day to eat like a bird -break up your meal into about two dozen tiny meals and eat your food gradually, one tiny bite at a time – (suggestion from TLC Bird Watching Activities Talk about Matthew 6:26 – that the birds don’t worry about where they get their food because God feeds them.

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4.  Make a bird out of paper Click here for a pattern of the above.   Cut out and make a slit to slide the wings through. Tape  to a craft stick and sing Little Bird as you move it up and down to ‘fly it’.  Fly the bird high and talk about all the bird can see from way up high in the sky.  Pretend the bird is singing and praising God.

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5. Make a picture of a bird and her babies in a nest.  Click here to download and print onto card stock .  As you cut, color and fold this, talk about how Jesus pointed out in Matthew 23:37 that the mother bird loves and protects her babies by taking them under her wings and that is what He wants to do for us.

And now enjoy this song about feeding birds from one of my favorite Disney movies – “Mary Poppins”. Interesting that the birds were at a cathedral just as the birds in Psalm 84 were at the Tabernacle.



Teaching Aid to Help Children Learn to Pray

Never stop praying. – 1 Thes. 5:17 
When they call on me, I will answer;  – Psalm 91:15
. . . men always ought to pray and not lose heart,  – Luke 18:1
Continue praying, keeping alert, and always thanking God. Colossians 4:2

“The reason we should teach little children to pray about the little insignificant things but are significant to them, very early in life, is so they learn that if they talk to God, He will answer their prayers.” Dr. Charles Stanley

Begin early to establish a pattern in your children to pray.  Teach them that prayer is simply talking to God about anything and everything just as they would with a friend.  Prayer can be saying thanks for something or asking for help with a problem.   Jo Bevington in her book, I Can Pray, described prayer as ‘feeling, thinking, listening, and talking to a very special Friend’.

With your older children, help them to start a prayer notebook with a list of things to be thankful for, things to pray about, and people to pray for.  Encourage them to make note of when God answers.

A tangible way to establish prayer in a younger child’s life is by beginning a prayer box. Definitely have pictures of people and things to thank God for.


Also include pictures that will be a reminder of things to pray about.  Look together through magazines to find pictures or draw your own.  For example:

Help me share with my friend

Help me go to the potty

Heal my neighbor’s dog

Mark these pictures with a ‘PTL’  or a sticker and the date when you see an answer.  Help your children know that they can trust God to hear and answer.  In Luke 18 Jesus told his disciples a story to illustrate their need for constant prayer and to show them that they must never give up until the answer comes.  The answer may be yes, no, or not yet –  but God will answer!!!


Let’s Learn About the Life of Moses

Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.
Josua 1:9

Just as the verse promises, God was with Moses wherever he went throughout his life and He will be with us wherever we go.  Have fun teaching the life of Moses and this wonderful promise to your children.  I recently spent a week doing this with my grandsons and we had a blast!!

Read the Scripture passages and retell the stories in your own words.  Also read the stories to your children from a children’s Bible.  Share  Joshua 1:9 often as you do the following activities.

Moses is born
Exodus 1:8 – 2:10

(Make a basket out of paper and put a baby in it.  Hide in real grass or make paper grass)

God Calls Moses
Exodus 3

(Put bits of yellow, orange, and red construction paper in a bush to represent the burning bush)

Crossing the Red Sea
Exodus 14

(Take blue construction paper and fold the ends to the center.  Glue sand or brown construction paper in the center)
(Use toy figures and don’t forget the army men)

Eating and Drinking in the Wilderness
Exodus 16:1 – 17:7

(Let manna fall from heaven (soda crackers or popcorn cake or any kind of white wafer)

(Run a hose pipe under a rock and have someone turn on the water as the child strikes the rock)
(Notice the backpacks packed for their trip in the Wilderness)

Here’s a song with motions to help memorize the verse: