I work for a local school system in the childcare. One of the mothers is having a tough time with her three-year-old son. Here is the letter I sent the mother. I hope it helps her and anyone else having a hard time dealing with a specific issue with your child.
- Dear —–,
I so admire yall’s diligence with —-. Yall are doing a great job. I was praying about what to say or do to encourage you and I thought I would just share with you some things that have helped me through the years of raising my four children.
First of all, I had to constantly claim 1 Thessalonians 5:24 “He who calls you is faithful, who also will do it.” God has called you to be —-’s mother and He will do it through you.
Another thing that helped was whenever one of my children was struggling in a certain area, I would try to find a scripture to help him learn and to pray for him. Isaiah 55:11 says “so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.”
According to this scripture, there is power in the Word, so we should send it into our children and God will accomplish what He purposes with it. For example when one of my sons was struggling with anger we learned and prayed Proverbs 29:8 “A wise man turns away anger”. Or when they were struggling with showing kindness we learned and prayed
Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind to one another”.
Lastly, I once heard an old pastor named Oliver Price say that “God works in the life of children through the parents, and the parents works in the life of the children through prayer.” There have been so many times that all I could do was just admit I couldn’t handle a situation and give my child back to Him and just pray for him or her. Sometimes I think God is saying, “Just get out of the way and let me handle the situation.” After all, God loves our children more than we do and desires even more than we do that they turn out good!
I just wanted you to know I was thinking of you. I have really grown to love —- and so enjoy the time I get to spend with him. Don’t worry about him; he is such an amazing little boy and I know he will grow to be a wonderful man of valor.